Life of an Indian wife in Germany

Hi, I am Rama. I am living in beautiful country called Germany with my husband and a beautiful daughter.

It’s been 4 years almost since i came here. I just want to share my views as an Indian women ( wife & a mom) who lives far away from her hometown and juggle her life and parenthood between two rich cultures. It’s always good to know because once you know, then you automatically know what to expect and plan your path ahead.

It’s Totally different from home. This is a land of independent doers and thinkers whereas back home we have cheap labors like maids, beautician, cooks, hairstylist etc.. so, first thing i said myself that stop comparing and live life as it is. Noone is there to pamper you, you got wear your big boy/girl pants here and be self sufficient.

Language for day to day life.  Well, the language is very beautiful but it’s very much harder to learn. Wherever we go everything will be in German e.g., basic things like milk is Milch, bread is Brot, vegetables are Gemuse etc., in supermarkets and names of medicines, eventhough you know it’s the correct medicine you will always have the doubt to buy because of the weird spelling in medical shops. Especially in doctor’s clinic people in reception won’t understand English a bit. I can write a whole new blog about that (ha.. ha..) . Ya, i now can manage to speak little Deutsch (ich spreche ein bisschen deutsch und ich liebe es). Advise i can give anybody is if you want to learn a language don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Your pronunciation.. there is a big difference between Indian Deutsch (Ha.. Ha.. ) and a proper Deutsch, i mean the slang. Atlast the language is very important for day to day life.

Living on your own makes you strong. Yes life on my own made me outcome most of my fears which i had once. You have to make right decisions for your family all alone sometimes. In the beginning everything was new and fearful for me, thanks to  my lovable husband who was there for me whenever i needed. While growing up, i was a kid who was very dependent on family and friends which made me so hard to adapt here at first. It was so tough for me which later i realized that the situations are making me stronger day by day. Being away from family and friends are hard but facing life alone gives more courage in life.

You have to make the effort and do the hardwork of fitting into the mainstream. Racial differences do exist a bit but it happens everywhere out of our country. Here small talk and quick witty quips is a way of life. If you are an outgoing person, extrovert type then its great. If not, you’ve got a lot of learning to do.

Maintaining Culture is more important. Friends & family connection you won’t find that here. So, we should find a way to make those connections. You will definitely need a social support to make that possible. It will make up for the family we left behind. Connect with as much as Indians possible so, that it will become our new family here and our children  mingle with them that way our language and culture cannot be lost. I wore Indian costume and make my daughter wear traditional Indian outfits on every pooja, it cultivates our strong culture in her young mind.

Weather. Though Germany is a beautiful place in all climate. Weather here is very unpredictable, one day it will rain like cats and dogs and other day it will be sunny. This ideal to have an umbrella 365 days and a jacket with you as you doesn’t know when the weather change and become chilly. But it’s interesting and i learnt to accept it, that’s what Germany is.

It’s not all that bad, its hard but not bad, once you get over there, reality bites. This place has a lot of growth opportunity in every-way – spiritual, mental and physical. Your resilience grows but you have to be brave enough to step out of your comfort zone.

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4 thoughts on “Life of an Indian wife in Germany

  1. From you said in that blogs, it was clear that you really played your role alone “Great” , it keeps things running on my mind… really impressed me…

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